Everywhere I turn, there’s always someone playing the comparison card.
I played this card over and over again until I realized that “Comparison is the thief of Joy.” This guy called Comparison stole my joy too.
There’s a rise in the number of depressed individuals these days, I’ve been in that dark place, no offense to people who have been or are still there but I can tell you that some of these people got there because of comparison forgetting that everyone’s race is different. My people say when twins are born into the world, they have different guardian angels and different paths, how much more people born to different parents from different countries with different cultures.
One of the biggest reasons we’re not content with ourselves and our lives is that we compare ourselves to other people.
Think about it! These days most people spend their precious time and hard earned money to sleep on people’s pages on instagram not because they are taking notes to better their lives but because they are just there to look and beat themselves up over what they’ve not achieved, I’m not saying setting goals, smashing goals or feeling a bit down when we don’t meet up with certain expectations of ourselves is bad, I’m saying comparison is bad!
Many a time, I’ve told people that Social Media most especially instagram is a place to show off finished products not bothering about the process most times, people tell you what they want you to hear and show you what they want you to see.
For example, you see someone else who is multitasking at three or more different “cool jobs” and think you’re not doing well or enough in your own field or you are simply not enough.
You see someone with a “banging” body and feel bad about yours forgetting that everyone was created differently and that some people have enough money to work on their bodies.
You see people traveling the world, going to the “happening” places, dining the best restaurants, sleeping in five(5) star hotels and you wonder why you’re not “living the life” forgetting that “their money and your money no be mate”
My people say: Plait my hair the way you plaited my friend’s own is an impossible task because you both have different shapes of head, different lengths of hair and different textures.
You must be wondering, what’s the whole point of this? I’ll tell you.
It’s: SAY NO TO COMPARISON!
Know Someone battling with Comparison or Maybe, Just Maybe, You are battling with Comparison? Below are a few things that helped me to overcome it, I hope you find them helpful.
1. Focus on Yourself:
The only thing you should focus on is yourself. Enjoy your life’s journey, Learn about yourself, Develop yourself, Invest in Yourself and Love Yourself first.
2. Count Your Blessings: Whenever you feel like Comparison has sneaked up or is sneaking up on you, count your blessings, count them over and over again, count all that you have (all you’ve been blessed with) you are allowed to stop when you feel at peace with yourself.
3. Focus on Your Strength(s): Find what you love, you might be good at it, you might not be good at it but just focus on it, develop your craft, explore your creative side, you’ll be glad you did.
4. Stay Sharp: Never forget that social media most especially instagram where all the “good stuff” is showcased is a photo album, it’s just an app!
5. Love What You Have: Simply put, be contented with what you have while working to get what you want.